Monday, January 17, 2011

Tough Conversations

Last week Ray and I were talking about the difficulty of having "tough conversations" with each other, coworkers, family, basically everyone.  This conversation actually started months earlier when he and coworkers were asked to read a book called Fierce Conversations for a work-education project.  After Ray read it, he suggested it be one of the books I read this year so we could discuss it.  I think that's a great idea.  I'm not sure if the book discusses the full spectrum of conversation types, from teaching kids about the birds and bees to handling professional criticism at work, but I'm quite eager to find out.

Although I'm not usually one to avoid a tough conversation (my pendulum probably resides too far on the other side), I do sometimes justify a dodge.

Especially when just leaving a note will do:

The Note

The Evidence

Another Note

More Evidence

On the other hand... sometimes a note only delays the tough conversation.

I can hardly wait for Ray to get home so we can start conversing.


Ryan and Haley Krumblis said...

Maybe I need to read this book of yours...Why is it there are always tough conversations?! I loved your note. I may just have to write my own for Ryan's hockey socks near anything in our closet...

Julie said...

Your notes are the best! What a creative way have those tough conversations. You make me laugh.

Neighbor Jane Payne said...

Baby razors will not do.

I'm going to read this book, too. I'd learn much.

Lynn said...

Your notes are very effective. No question. But what if we DON'T WANT TO HAVE TOUGH CONVERSATIONS? Would that be so bad?